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Being a Mom is Like Walking a Tightrope

Discrimination. A big word —  back in the news because of the Arizona law.

Have you ever considered that celebrating Mothers’ Day discriminates against the rest of the population?  So,  am I recommending that we eliminate it? Not on your life!

After numerous illnesses and many long periods of hospitalization, my Mom died when I was 12.  And now she is out of my life forever. We never think that can happen to us and yet it did!  How I wish I could spend the day with her tomorrow. (Do you ever stop missing your Mom?)

Mom’s are unsung heroes most of the other 364 days of the year. We just kinda get used to them being there whenever we want them to be.  Taking them for granted.  Sometimes we want our “Mommy” and other times we want to be an adult and stand on our own two feet…without their “interference”. And that can change back and forth even within a five minute  time period. Being a  mom is like walking a tight-rope.

How is it we go about not realizing their sacrifice until we have a child of our own? T H E N … we understand and we grieve the lost opportunities we had had to connect on a deeper level all those years before the birth of our own child/children.  And our Moms must then again walk that tightrope of wondering which hat they should wear at any given time, when–even as parents ourselves–we are back and forth between wanting our “Mommy” and standing on our own and making our OWN mistakes.

I am a mother and proud of it. I loved the privilege of homeschooling my kids, coupled with the privilege of praying with them as they asked the Lord to be their personal Savior. Glory! What can ever be more rewarding than all of that?  Each phase of their lives has had its own challenge and reward.

It has been said, “The hand that rocks the cradle rules the world.”  My mother had a great influence on me.  Her faith in the Lord made me hunger for what she had. We never had a chance to sit down and talk about it, but  I knew she had something very special that I wanted…and…after her death, I searched until I found the Source of her strength — Jesus.

Are mothers perfect? Not on your life! Mine wasn’t and I am not. Moms are sinners and their kids are sinners. Do we make mistakes? Numerous ones and often! Would we die for our children? In a heartbeat! Isn’t that what childbirth proves?

Back to the original question: Should we eliminate Mothers’ Day because  it is a discrimination against others?  Or rather decide to make EVERY day Mothers’ Day, forgiving her for her mistakes and all her sins and choosing to enjoy her with all her warts and flaws…every day.  We are not guaranteed tomorrow. I know. I was not guaranteed even the 13th year of my life with mine.



  1. Very nice, Pam. Happy Mother’s Day to you!!

    Comment by Paula

  2. Lovely article….I hope your kids know how blessed they are to have you for a Mom:)

    Comment by Kris

  3. Wow, Pam, how powerful and true. There aren’t words to describe how it feels throughout life when you have lost your mother at such a young age. I know this because I lost my mom when I was 11 years old, and I had siblings even younger. It is such a void. And, praise God for the time He did give us with our mothers and for those He has given us as friends to help support us when we need and want our mother’s care and concern. Thank you for this wonderful writing on motherhood throughout life! I appreciate it!

    Comment by Lori Brosdahl

  4. Well said, Lori! You have been a “mother” to so many in your daycare ministry and in your involvement in children’s ministries. Your insights here — about how God fills the “void” are deeply appreciated. Thank you for taking the time to post your comments so others can benefit from your wisdom and experience! On that day when you see Jesus face-to-face, I have no doubt that He will say, “Well done! Good and faithful servant!”

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