I recently had the privilege of teaching two workshops at the NICHE Homeschool Convention in Des Moines, IA. One of the workshops was for Single Parent Homeschooling, where I shared these Parenting Tips. So much is relevant, whether we are single, married, homeschool, Christian school, or public school. Parenting is parenting. So, it’s fun to share what we have discovered as we jouney the path with our kids.
The other workshop was “Hannah’s Daughter” (my own personal testimony of my search for God). Maybe I’ll share that in a future post??? 🙂
I offered these Parenting Tips to the people in my workshops and thought you might enjoy them as well. I’d love your feedback about anything you found to be particularly helpful. And, please post any other things that worked for you as you raised your own children, or as you watched others raise theirs. It’s never too late to start to train up a child in the way he/she should go so that when they are “old”, they will become faithful in what they have been taught.
So, here’s the info from the handout:
There’s no right or wrong way to school/teach your child. Let me re-phrase that. The only wrong way is if God tells you one thing and you choose to do another because God’s way seemed too hard.
Teach them (by example) to love to read. (Read everything to them.)
Teach them to love to learn (by example).
Keep a journal for them telling them that they were wanted and write down for them the journey of faith with God … noted page by page. You might not be around to be able to tell them. My mother died when I was a pre-teen.
Let them “catch you” in prayer and Bible reading.
“Bring” God into everything…because He is in everything.
Be aware of God’s continuous presence.
TMS (Navigator’s Topical Memory System). Memorize Scripture together.
Teach them the great hymns of the faith. Have them memorize the words. (My son sent me an affirmation email recently thanking me for teaching them the great hymns of the faith.)
Have them go to sleep – from infancy – listening to Scripture tapes/CD’s or…the subconscious mind absorbs and is receptive.
Have them memorize whole chapters of Scripture. Pay them $ for memorizing.
No allowance. We’re family and family works together to accomplish what needs to be done.
Deut. 6:7 tells us to teach our children diligently (purposefully), continually, whenever we are together.
Behavior/Attitudes (good and bad) are “caught” more easily than “taught”.
Keys for Kids devotional from Children’s Bible Hour (Uncle Charlie) is good even for very young children. It teaches truths, attitudes, good behavior, good relationship skills & love for/from God.)
Be their cheerleader. Observe their strengths, interests, talents, and learning styles “Train up a child in the way he/she should go…” Each child is unique
Be their advocate.
Quote from Our Daily Bread devotional (1/30/11) “Children may not inherit their parent’s talent, but they will absorb their values.”
No T.V. (My daughter sent a wonderful affirmation in an email from seminary, thanking me that she didn’t know the Sesame Street characters, but she knew the Bible characters.)
When they love to read and love to learn, they are not at the mercy of what others teach them. They can learn it for themselves. They can do their own research. They will learn to “think” rather than just regurgitate what was taught them.
Copyright 2011. Pam Taylor, Christian Life Coach, loavesandfishescoaching.com
Pam, do you remember that you suggested the KISS system? When I remembered it worked. I can be the queen of complication.
Also, as adoptive parents our experience, is a bit different than some. I suggest that accepting and embracing who they are and letting them know that they came to you via God’s plan even though that plan included some sorrow on both sides. The sorrow was well worth it. Remind them that God allowed you got to share your life with just the right children. They and you make the perfect family. Tell them you love them in the laguage the understand. Savor each moment of their childhood. It passes all too quickly. As an adoptive parent, if you are blessed enough to be able to do so, reconnect them with their birth families. For us reconnection was completely healing for everyone. It was important to me to tell their mothers that my only regret wad that they had to give up their wonderful childhood so that I could enjoy it.
Comment by Ellen
Ellen, Thank you so much! You added so much value from your adoptive parent perspective. We all benefit from what you shared. And no, I didn’t remember suggesting the KISS system for you. 🙂 What fun to be reminded! Bless you bunches for taking the time!
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Just needed to add:
As I was flying to Romania in 1990 on my way to pick out our children, I said to God, “This job is too big for me, Lord. We’re changing lives here. You are just going to have to handle it.” From then on, I honestly relaxed and enjoyed the journey. The years have taught me to apply this to most of life, at least most days, not every day.
In fact, I think the girls get it, too. Sometimes they ask me to tell them what I said to God on my way to find them. Sometimes they remind we of what I said. And sometimes, we share a mom and daughters smile about it when we observe others who are definitely not enjoying the journey at the moment.
The trip back to Romania in 2009, made us all realize that God created something alsolutely wonderful out of things that seemed horrible at the time. That is when and where I came to absolute peace that God had replaced my youthful ideals and shoulds with His perfect reality. I will take His reality over my dreams any time.
Comment by Ellen
Wow! That is powerful stuff! Thanks for taking the time to write this second response! We are all benefiting from it!
If only we would (speaking for myself) realize that everything is ultimately too big for us and that whatever we turn over to Him goes so much better.
I get a little better at it with each passing year. 🙂
Comment by admin
Pam, I am learning that different modes of parenting are needed during different stages of growth. With a 6 year old and a 17 year old, I’ve learned to practice sticking close to them in different ways. For example, I’m learning to let go gradually with my 17 year old. And breath…..
Thanks for this post!
Comment by Toni Ruppert
You are soooo right! Different ages bring a whole new learning curve with them. But then, each child is individually an opportunity to stretch us as well. Just when we think we get the parenting thing all figured out, we realize we don’t have a clue! God is a much better parent than we humans, and thankfully, He is always just a prayer away. Thanks for bringing your perspective to the post.
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