Mothers’ Day. Walking a Tightrope.
A new twist on discrimination.
It has been said that celebrating Mothers’ Day actually discriminates against the rest of the population. So, am I recommending that we eliminate Mothers’ Day? Not on your life! Let’s look at this through the eyes of the child…
My own mother
After numerous illnesses and many long periods of hospitalization, my Mom died when I was 12. And now she is out of my life forever. We never think that can happen to us and yet it did! How I wish I could spend the day with her on Sunday. (Does anyone ever stop missing their Mom?)
Mom’s are unsung heroes most of the other 364 days of the year. We just kinda get used to them being there whenever we want them to be. Taking them for granted. Sometimes we want our “Mommy” and other times we want to be an adult and stand on our own two feet…without their “interference”. And that can change back and forth even within a five minute time period. Being a mom is like walking a tight-rope.
Moms sacrifices go unnoticed
Many don’t realize their Mom’s sacrifices until they have a child of their own. T H E N … they understand and grieve the lost opportunities to connect on a deeper level all those years before the birth of their own child/children. And Moms must again walk a tightrope of wondering which hat they should wear at any given time, when–even as their children are parents themselves–they are back and forth between wanting their “Mommy” and standing on their own and making their OWN mistakes.
Challenges vs rewards
Sadly, many would love to be a mother and are unable for one reason or another. That is heartbreaking. I was barren for 12 years myself. So I understand that longing. But this post is not about what we lack, but about the mothers that we have been given. God chose our mothers. We mustn’t forget that. How do we think about them? How do we treat them? As a gift or as a curse? I am a mother and I am grateful. It has been a privilege praying with and for my children and my grandchildren. Glory! Praying for them through each phase of their lives. Has it been a challenge? YES! Every step along the way has been a learning process. And each step has its own reward, as well.
A mother’s influence
It has been said, “The hand that rocks the cradle rules the world.” I was fortunate that my mother was a Believer and Follower of Jesus. My mother had a great influence on me. Her faith in the Lord made me hunger for what she had, even though I didn’t really understand it at the time. We never had a chance to sit down and talk about it, but I knew she had something very special that I wanted…and…after her death, I searched and searched until I found the Source of her strength – Jesus, the Christ.
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Is perfection even possible?
Nope! Are mothers perfect? Not on your life! Yours wasn’t and mine wasn’t and I am not. Moms are sinners and their kids are sinners. Do Moms and their kids make mistakes? Numerous ones and often! Even if the relationship is strained for whatever reason, would we die for our children? In a heartbeat! Isn’t that what childbirth proves?
Back to the original question:
Should we eliminate Mothers’ Day because it is a discrimination against others? Or rather, should we decide to make EVERY day Mothers’ Day, forgiving her for her mistakes and all her sins and choosing to enjoy her with all her warts and flaws…every day. We are not guaranteed tomorrow. I know. I was not guaranteed even the 13th year of my life with mine.
Awaiting His shout,
Christian Life Coach
Leading from Your Strengths Mentor
Very nice, Pam. Happy Mother’s Day to you!!
Comment by Paula
Lovely article….I hope your kids know how blessed they are to have you for a Mom:)
Comment by Kris
Wow, Pam, how powerful and true. There aren’t words to describe how it feels throughout life when you have lost your mother at such a young age. I know this because I lost my mom when I was 11 years old, and I had siblings even younger. It is such a void. And, praise God for the time He did give us with our mothers and for those He has given us as friends to help support us when we need and want our mother’s care and concern. Thank you for this wonderful writing on motherhood throughout life! I appreciate it!
Comment by Lori Brosdahl
Well said, Lori! You have been a “mother” to so many in your daycare ministry and in your involvement in children’s ministries. Your insights here — about how God fills the “void” are deeply appreciated. Thank you for taking the time to post your comments so others can benefit from your wisdom and experience! On that day when you see Jesus face-to-face, I have no doubt that He will say, “Well done! Good and faithful servant!”
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