Mom-2-Mom Parenting Tips
Parenting is hard work! We all need a little help!
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Awaiting His shout,
Pam Taylor
Christian Life Coach
The MomCourager(TM)
Hi, I’m so glad you are here!
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We all know that we each are even greater in our parenting when we share our collective wisdom and our time-tested knowledge. Here is a place to share what you have learned for the benefit of the rest of us. You have “bragging rights” here! 🙂
At the bottom of each email in the series you’ll find a link here. We’re hoping you won’t just read what others have posted, but that you’ll visit often to share… adding your own comments and wisdom. We truly do all need each other!
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Until next time,
Mom-2-Mom,
Pam Taylor
Christian Life Coach
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An Easter message of redemption and love and hope. I’m reading Not a Fan. Becoming a completely committed follower of Jesus. by Kyle Idleman. It brought back some memories…Â
“Now to Him who is able to keep you from stumbling, and to make you stand in the presence of His glory blameless with great joy, to the only God our Savior, through Jesus Christ our Lord, be glory, majesty, dominion, and authority, before all time and now and forever. Amen.”—Jude 24, 25, NAS
Today, at 6:40 a.m. (Earth-time) I stepped from your world into the peaceful beauty and splendor of Heaven. It was an easy passing…there was a quietness and a calm in the air as I passed from one world and into the next. It was a lovely journey.
King Jesus was on the Bema Seat. I was not afraid to face Him. We discussed my life and I quietly asked, “but Lord, what about when I…”
(In blood red)
suddenly appeared on my hand. “Oh, my Lord,” I whispered, as He stepped down from the Bema Seat. The jagged scars from the rough-hewn nails on His wrists made me weep as He wrapped His lovely arms around me. That simple act of His hug has totally healed me of my earthly experiences. Those beautiful scars! I laid my head on His shoulder and wept for joy. Such love. I looked down and saw the scars on His feet…love marks to me. Such glorious, pure, untainted, unconditional love. I am in the home of the forgiven.
He placed a crown on my head. On me! How could this be? And yet, it is true! Glorious love! Somehow, I don’t feel unworthy. It feels natural to be here. As though I have always been here. Then I remember: “There is therefore now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus” (Romans 8:1, NAS).
“Oh, my Lord…my glorious Lord!” I fell before His feet. I touched the scars. “They are there because of my sin, not Yours!” He lifted me up, and escorted me – His bride – to the banquet table. “How is it possible, with so many others here, that I feel as though I am alone with You”? I asked Him. Those beautiful expressive eyes drew me closer – ever closer to an understanding of the purity that love can possess.
The clutter of the things that were important in my earth-life is gone. “Life is so simple here. There is love and there is purpose; and I know that You have prepared this destiny especially for me. You have used my earth-life to prepare me for what You were preparing for me – here – after the banquet.”
“I have been healed with Your loving embrace,” I whispered. “Your banquet table has nourished me. I have walked down the path with You – on Your arm as Your bride. Oh, the wonder of it all! Now, You have said that we have work to do – together – in every sense of the word. You have made me worthy to be here and You have proved it by placing this crown on my head.”
I tried to kneel and He told me, “No, STAND before Me…I have made you worthy.” So, I stood…in my glorified body – before King Jesus and He embraced me again, and said, “You have been faithful. Well done, My lovely one. My bride.  You are here, not for what you have done in My Name, but because you have loved my Glorious Appearing. That is all that I have required. There is no need for My bride to ever fear My appearing. You were created for this purpose. Your earth-life was preparation for all of this. I often told you, “I have My way. You have yours. Mine is better. You see…I was right. My way is better.”
Then He said, “Here, My love…let Me show you how My Light sparkles through this bottle of your tears that I have kept.  Not one tear was lost…and see how they add to the beauty of Heaven—the home of the forgiven. WELCOME HOME!” Â
I’m out to change my world. One person at a time! Here’s what I just started doing:
When I go to a store & the clerk/cashier is pleasant & helpful (and appreciates my humor):
1. I ask their name.
2. I tell them that I appreciated their (helpfulness or sense of humor or whatever).
3. I ask them for the name of their supervisor so I can tell the supervisor what a good job they did.
4. I ask where I can find their supervisor.
Then:
1. I seek out the supervisor.
2. (I smile inwardly as they tense up expecting a complaint.)
3. I tell them that I know that they are used to bad reports about employees, but…
4. I want to give a good report about (NAME) and that I think the employee deserves some kind of reward because they are good for business!
Then:
1. I watch the supervisor smile and relax a bit.
2. They ALWAYS thank me for taking the time.
I feel so happy after that. It is one little thing that I can do to change my world into a little better place!
Here’s my challenge to you: Will you join me in the campaign to intentionally thank people for good service? I’m thinking that it doesn’t just stop at the employee and the supervisor. Don’t you think it’s a pretty good guess that they will treat everyone else in their path in a much kinder way as a result of being thanked?
You might even notice a bit of a spring in your own step as you walk to your car. And we might even catch you smiling throughout the day as you remember how good it felt to bring a bit of beauty to someone else’s day!
Try it. It’s addictive! The only thing it will cost you is a few minutes of time.
Pass this on and let’s see if we can start a “gratefulness revolution“! Share this blog post on FB and on LI and with your email lists. Think of the possibilities! 🙂
One person at a time…we can begin to change our world for the better! Are you up for the challenge??? I promise you it will be fun!
Then, use the comment box below to report back to the rest of us. We want to hear your story!
Looking for a good sleep aid?
Frustrating, isn’t it…tossing and turning at night…trying to fall asleep?
I might have an answer for you…if you are willing to try it. No purchase necessary.
I’m about to share my cool discovery with you. If you truly want to improve your ability to fall asleep, you won’t hesitate to try this. But just in case you need an extra incentive…I double-dare you to try my secret.
This secret sleep aid has worked for me about 5Â years.
Here’s my story: After years of sleep deprivation, I was desperate for sleep. I had a job that required me to work one day until 9:00 p.m. and then the next day have to leave for work at 6:30 a.m. and work 10 hours and then it was often the 9 p.m. schedule on the following day. Sometimes, it would be two 9 p.m. days in a row. Or two or three early a.m. days in a row, following by the 9 p.m. day. Some weeks we were working 6 days a week. It was hard to get a routine.It was difficult to fall asleep.
We all know it is easier to fall asleep if you have a routine you follow each night.
Since I was not able to have a dependable routine because my work schedule was beyond my control, I needed a solution to help me fall asleep soon after my head hit the pillow, no matter what time it was each night.
I’ve heard your groans as you also sometimes toss and turn at night. And for some of you, it is a regular almost nightly occurence. Maybe it is not from an undependable work schedule. Maybe it is a new baby. Or maybe it is a child that has nightmares. Or any myriad of possibilities that are preventing your falling asleep at night.
Assuming you have checked out other possibilities…like no caffeine late in the day or evening…or an illness that is causing great pain that is preventing sleep. That is a different story. We can talk about that special circumstance if you would like…
But for now, let’s stick with this scenario…
I want you to have your best life possible and I know that sleep is one way to help you to have the best outlook on your life, no matter what challenges you face. I want you to know my secret so you can get some relief…so you can feel your best…so you can do your best…so your work, family, church, neighborhood relationships have the best possible chance of being great (not just good). So all of your life just “works” better! A life coach likes to help people figure out ways to be their best self (by God’s design).
With all that said, here’s the secret…
After you have made the room dark and cool and as quiet…
Fluff your pillow.
Lie down on your bed.
Close your eyes.
And
Smile.
Then…
Keep smiling.
That is really what I said.
Smile.
Keep smiling.
And think of how much Jesus loves you.
And imagine Him reaching His arms toward you in love.
And before you know it, it is morning.
Don’t laugh. Well, laugh if you want…because it IS funny…but is also works. It works for me and it will work for you if you give it an honest try.
God says in the Bible that a joyful heart doeth good like medicine. So…smiling will affect the way you look at your life and it will tell your heart that you are joyful and before you know it, you are looking at life differently. And your life “feels” better, even if nothing has changed…(except that you are smiling more). 🙂
Bottom line: I want you to be able to get a better night’s sleep. Like me.
Let me know if I can help. Here is some of what I do..
Pam Taylor. Christian Life Coach. Entrepreneur. Blogger. Coach. Strengths Coach. Improving your options for a more efficient and satisfying life.
I’m about to share with you how to get the world’s cheapest facelift. But, you have to be actively involved in this. Are you willing?
You’re still here, so here we go…first off…
Stop reading for a minute and go get a mirror. Bring it back to your computer as you read the rest of this post…Look into the mirror…
And…
Smile.
Now…
Frown.
Now…
Lay the mirror down. Smile again. How do you feel?
Pick up the mirror again. Look at your face. Look at your jawline. Look at your eyes and the area around them.
Now frown while looking into the mirror. Look at your jawline. Look at your eyes and the area around them.
Now smile again into the mirror. SEE the difference? You can give yourself the world’s cheapest facelift by just smiling. Often.
Smile and the world smiles with you. Frown and you frown alone.
Seriously. Isn’t it amazing how much younger you look when you smile?
Let me know what you think when you try this experiment out for yourself. Easy. Free. The world’s cheapest facelift. 🙂
My will or God’s will? Is it possible to know what God wants me to do?
Here’s some questions to ask yourself when trying to evaluate whether your decision is “my will or God’s will“…
Adapted from an article appearing in RBC Ministries devotion book. And that article had been adapted from:Â How Can I Know What God Wants Me To Do?Â
The Power of Accountabiliy was written by Tony Stoltzfus
I’m sharing a link to an article published in the online Christian Coaching Center Magazine this month.
The coaching relationship is a powerfully helpful relationship as you move toward greater purpose. A Christian coach can help by holding you accountable to achieving your personal integrity goals, as well. The unique relationship can be an encouraging tool toward personal growth.
I wanted to share Tony’s post with you, in hopes of blessing you with a different “voice” than my own for a change of pace. You can read it here:
http://www.christiancoachingcenter.org/index.php/2011/11/the-power-of-accountability/.
The Power of Accountability and the Christian Coaches role.
Invest in your future? What does that mean in today’s economy? Jason Bohn was a college student when he made a hole-in-one golf shot that won him a million dollars. He had a plan. Rather than squandering the money, he used it to improve his golf skills–a type of “living-and-training fund”–an investment in his future, paying off with a win on the PGA Tour’s 2005 B.C. Open. (And proving “Bohn’s decision to invest in the future instead of living for the moment was a wise one indeed.”)
Likely, we won’t make a million-dollar hole-in-one, like Bohn. So how does this translate into a non-golf pro’s lifestyle and investment in our future?
“In a sense, that is what Jesus calls us to do.” (Invest in our future. But..how do we do that?)Â We have been entrusted with resources–time, ability, opportunity–and we decide how/where/when to use them. Our challenge is to see those resources as an opportunity to invest long-term. ‘Lay up for yourselves treasures in heaven…for where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.’Â (Matthew 6:20,21).
Think of your resources: your talents, time, knowledge. “These are temporal and limited. But if you invest them with an eye toward eternity, these temporary things can have enduring impact.” What about your personality strengths and spiritual gifts? All these things are gifts to us from Creator God, with the intention of our investing them for eternity’s sake.
So…where is your heart? Earthbound or Heavenbound? And what is your focus? Now or forever?
You’re alive and reading this today, which is proof that you still have time and opportunity to invest in your future. “It will not only have an eternal impact, but it will also change the way you view life each day.”Â
I’d like to hear from you about how you’re investing in your Future.
Onward! 🙂
—Bill Crowder (adapted from Our Daily Bread, October, 2011)
Self pity vs. self-compassion. What’s the difference? And, who cares?
Self-pity is a passive self-absorbed thing. It prevents us from having self-compassion. And it prevents us from fully loving others.
Imagine. (Pleeeeasssseee…Totally stop everything right now and take a few minutes to truly imagine with me...) Imagine a time when you’re tenderly and compassionately caring for someone that is ill. You lovingly put them to bed. A little later, you go in to check on them and they are asleep. You stand in the doorway and you watch them sleep and you pray and will them to be well again. You have compassion for them. The person turns over, looks at you and you realize, that person…
It’s YOU!
Now…if you can stay in that moment of time, healing is waiting for you there!
Self-pity vs. self-compassion.
Modeling. Our children model what they see in us. If we don’t forgive ourselves, the child likely is unforgiving toward the mother/father and toward self, as well.
Healthy child: “My mother/father loved life.” However…If we raise “healthy” kids, and we only love them, but we don’t love ourselves, they too will have difficulty loving themselves, because that is what was modeled for them = NOT loving oneself.
Disclaimer: of course we are not referring to the model that embraces thinking the world revolves around oneself, but rather a good healthy love of what the Creator decided we would be. He chose our personality, our spiritual gifts, our talents and skills. To not embrace who we were created to be, is an affront to our Father. We owe it to our children to know the difference between self-pity vs. self-compassion.
I’d love to hear your thoughts about this. Have you found this to be true?